Counselling for change
Albert Einstein once said “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.”
He was talking about the challenge of change, a small word that for some can be difficult to consider.
Sometimes in life we reach a point where we feel something needs to change. The feelings and thoughts we have, the behaviours we find ourselves repeating or the situations we find ourselves in may no longer feel tolerable. Contact me today, and let’s start to make a meaningful change.
Our counselling relationship
Clients find their way to me by being referred by their doctor, Employer Assisted Programmes or via the internet. A good deal of my private work also comes through personal recommendation, which I find particularly rewarding.
Starting a positive relationship with your therapist is an important first step in counselling. I'm pleased to offer a free 15 minute telephone consultation to help identify your concerns, answer any questions you may have and of course to see if you feel comfortable working with me. Please take a look at my About me page.
Often the simple act of talking through your thoughts on the telephone is enough to lift a significant weight from your shoulders.
The counselling process – anxiety and depression?
Everyone experiences difficult periods at one time or another, and you may not be surprised to hear that a significant amount of people consider talking therapy at some point in their lives.
You can find out about some of the situations where people might look to counselling here.
Your difficulties may have been triggered by a specific event such as a trauma or some kind of loss, or a series of events. Or there may be no apparent problem and yet suddenly you feel stuck.
Together we will work to help you find and use your own inner strengths. You may then be more able to make the choices and changes necessary to live and create a more satisfying life, including meaningful and fulfilling relationships with others.
Counselling will allow you a confidential place to talk that is separate from your family or friends.
Men in counselling
Why do men find it difficult to use counselling ?
Statistics from the counselling and psychotherapy profession report that men can make up less than 20 per cent of those seeking help through counselling and psychotherapy, and yet it appears that men suffer distress as often and in similar ways to women.
'Big boys don't cry'
Research shows that, put simply, we get the message from childhood that ‘big boys don’t cry’. As life moves on, we internalise the idea that being a ‘man’ means you sort out problems without talking about them or involving outsiders.
Too often, boys and men would prefer not to admit they have a problem that might benefit from talking through. In an attempt to mask feelings of inadequacy, we sometimes turn to denial, anger or even substance misuse or addictions.
Perhaps counselling will prove more helpful than you think. It might prove useful to consider change. Contact me and let’s make a start.
May I help?
If you’re thinking of seeking counselling within reach of the Wakefield area, either as an individual or with a partner, do give me a call or text on 07599 386481 or contact me by email.
There is more practical information about fees, the meeting place etc. on my Practicalities page. And don’t forget you can book a 15 minute consultation on the phone to see if I can be helpful to you. I look forward to hearing from you.